February 2013 Newsletter

February’s Offline Happenings!
National Teen Dating Violence Prevention
Respect for ones self, family and others

February 4, 6:00 – 8:00 p.m.
continues on Febr 11, 18, 25 and March 4, 11, 18
Becoming a Love and Logic Parent
Catholic Charities Office
1601 Military Road, Sioux City, Iowa
These sessions are free.

February 4, 7:00 – 8:00  p.m.
Mayor’s Youth Commission Executive Council

Siouxland Chamber of Commerce, 101 Pierce Street
Sioux City, Iowa

February 7,  9:00 – 11:00 a.m.
Comprehensive Strategy Community Meeting
Briar Cliff University, 3303 Rebecca Street, Sioux City, Iowa
Assisi Room in the Saint Francis Center of the Stark Student Center
Topic:  Economic Deprivation in Siouxland; and exploring the Individual Development Account Model

February 7, 12:00 p.m. – 1:00 p.m.
Siouxland CARES Advisory Board/SPF SIG Committee
Siouxland Chamber of Commerce, 101 Pierce Street
Sioux City, Iowa

February 14, 2013
Valentine’s Day

Show your loved ones you CARE!
In addition to the U.S., Valentine’s Day is celebrated in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France, Australia, Denmark, Italy and Japan.

February 19, 1:30 p.m.
Bully Documentary
Western Iowa Tech Community College,
Cargill Auditorium, no charge. 98 minutes.
MPAA Rating: PG-13

February 25, 7:00 – 8:00 p.m.
Mayor’s  Youth Commission Meeting

City Hall, 405 6th Street
Sioux City, Iowa


MYTH:  All of the other kids drink alcohol,  I need to drink to fit in.
FACT:   If you really want to fit in, stay sober.  Most young people don’t drink alcohol.  National research shows that more than 70 percent of youth aged 12 to 20 haven’t had a drink in the past month.
Source:  www.stopalcoholabuse.gov, SAMHSA

Teen Dating Violence
Unhealthy relationships can start early and last a lifetime. Dating violence often starts with teasing and name calling. These behaviors are often thought to be a “normal” part of a relationship. But these behaviors can set the stage for more serious violence like physical assault and rape.
What is dating violence?
Teen dating violence is defined as the physical, sexual, or psychological/emotional violence within a dating relationship, as well as stalking. It can occur in person or electronically and may occur between a current or former dating partner. You may have heard several different words used to describe teen dating violence. Here are just a few:
         Relationship Abuse
          Intimate Partner Violence
          Relationship Violence
          Dating Abuse
          Domestic Abuse
          Domestic Violence
Adolescents and adults are often unaware that teens experience dating violence. In a nationwide survey, 9.4 percent of high school students report being hit, slapped, or physically hurt on purpose by their boyfriend or girlfriend in the 12 months prior to the survey. (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2011 Youth Risk Behavior Survey). About 1 in 5 women and nearly 1 in 7 men who ever experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner, first experienced some form of partner violence between 11 and 17 years of age (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey).
What are the consequences of dating violence?
As teens develop emotionally, they are heavily influenced by their relationship experiences. Healthy relationship behaviors can have a positive effect on a teen’s emotional development. Unhealthy, abusive or violent relationships can cause short term and long term negative effects, or consequences to the developing teen. Victims of teen dating violence are more likely to do poorly in school, and report binge drinking, suicide attempts, and physical fighting. Victims may also carry the patterns of violence into future relationships.
Why Does Dating Violence Happen?
Communicating with your partner, managing uncomfortable emotions like anger and jealousy, and treating others with respect are a few ways to keep relationships healthy and non-violent. Teens receive messages about how to behave in relationships from peers, adults in their lives, and the media. All too often these examples suggest violence in a relationship is okay. Violence is never acceptable. But there are reasons why it happens.
Violence is related to certain risk factors. Risks of having unhealthy relationships increase for teens who:
         Believe it’s okay to use threats or violence to get their way or  to express frustration or anger.
         Use alcohol or drugs.
         Can’t manage anger or frustration.
         Hang out with violent peers.
         Have multiple sexual partners.
         Have a friend involved in dating violence.
         Are depressed or anxious.
         Have learning difficulties and other problems at school.
         Don’t have parental supervision and support.
         Witness violence at home or in the community.
         Have a history of aggressive behavior or bullying.
Dating violence can be prevented when teens, families, organizations, and communities work together to implement effective prevention strategies.

Source:  cdc.gov/violence prevention


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Siouxland Fact
Making peace must start within ourselves, our families, our homes, and in our community.  Each of us commits ourselves as best we can to become
non-violent and peaceful people:
To Respect My Self
To care for myself physically, emotionally and mentally; to take responsibility for myself;
 and to resist negative peer pressure and self-destructive behaviors.

To Respect Others
To affirm others and to respect diversity among people and to avoid uncaring criticism,
hateful words, physical attacks, and self-destructive behavior
To Communicate Better
To share my feelings honestly, to look for safe ways to express my anger and other emotions, and to work at solving problems peacefully.
 To Listen
To listen carefully to others, especially those who disagree with me and to consider others’ feelings and needs rather than insist on having my own way.
 To Forgive
To apologize and make amends when I have hurt another,
to forgive others, and to keep from holding grudges.

To Respect the Environment
To treat the environment and all living things with respect
and to use resources carefully.

To Play Creatively
To select entertainment and toys that support nonviolent values and to avoid
entertainment that makes violence look exciting, funny or acceptable.

To Be Courageous
To challenge violence in all its forms whenever I encounter it, whether at home, at school,
 at work, or in the community and to stand with others who are treated unfairly.
 This is our pledge.
  “Eliminating violence one person at a time, starting with ourselves.”

Bullying Information
Contact the Boys Town National Hot Line,
1-800-448-3000 or
the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline,
1-800-273-8255 or
A Youth Counseling Hotline,
Additional Resources:

Find out more about the beSomebody campaign by connecting to the Siouxland CARES website at www.siouxlandcares.org or beSomebody.us or Like us on beSomebody Facebook page.

Tri-State Curfew
The following curfew is now in effect in Sioux City, Sergeant Bluff, and Woodbury County, Iowa, North Sioux City, South Dakota, South Sioux City, Nebraska, and Dakota County, Nebraska. Please enforce these times in your home.
 10:00 p.m. for minors under the age of 14
11:00 p.m. for minors ages 14 and 15
Midnight for minors ages 16 and 17  

About Siouxland CARES.
Siouxland CARES (Community-wide Awareness, Resources, Education and Support) About Substance Abuse is a community coalition comprised of 350 volunteers. Volunteers for Siouxland CARES (representing 12 community systems) and staff contributed 16,845 hours in 2011 to CARES programs and services. The mission of CARES is to improve the quality of life in Siouxland by eliminating the abuse of alcohol and other drugs and related violence.

The Anti-Drug is Communication.
Ask Who? Ask What? Ask Where?
It’s not pestering, it’s parenting!

Trustworthiness:   Think it.  Be it.
Respect:  Give it.  Get it.
Responsibility:  Take it.  Teach It.
Fairness:  Share it.  Practice it.
Caring:  Show it.  Receive it.
Citizenship:  Have it.  Honor it.
Make Your Character Count in Siouxland!!

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